I'm not sure if I'm sorry for him or despised him. Or why, when I look back over the years, I had to single him out as one good example of a bad boss while I was the embodiment of a naive country bumpkin learning the ropes of survival in the city. He once wrote in a reply to my resignation letter (after I quit from his employment for the second time), "you either manage or be managed..."
I can't think of any other occasion where a boss replies to an employee’s resignation letter. Well, we were both young and rash and our age difference was only two years apart but he was the boss and I, the subordinate. He probably thought that I couldn't even manage myself. I was naive, had two left feet and I bungled my way around especially when dealing with people. But I just took it as his concern for my future rather than his ego that made him write that in the letter.
Looking back, I think he couldn't have been more wrong. One doesn't have to be a manager to manage whether himself or others. As one much-forwarded e-mail went, "even an a**hole can be a boss". But because you're in a position to make an unpopular decision you can turn into one as soon as you make it.
Over the years I have learnt to manage others as well as myself including my family budget. In spite of the many setbacks I guess I haven't done badly. I often thought he should have done pretty well but apparently he hadn't. He died of a heart attack before the age of 45. He hadn’t managed his health properly. Or was it his destiny to go off early?